My very favorite baby products

Entering parenthood can be overwhelming on its own, but now new parents are bombarded with trying to figure out which gadgets to buy and what baby gear they need.  I've tried to stick with a minimalist approach to parenting, acquiring only things I absolutely love or know I truly need.  Here are a few of those baby items I adore and couldn't have done without these last 5 months.


Books: The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding

This book was my bible during the first month of breastfeeding and has continued to be useful up to today.  Published by the worldwide organization, La Leche League, it's a god-send to new mothers, helping to normalize different breastfeeding struggles, encouraging you to trust your intuition, and gently guide you in bonding with your baby.  Even beyond this book, La Leche League is an invaluable resource to help with breastfeeding.  They have volunteers around the world to help guide you with any troubles or concerns you might have and I found they are so happy to help in any way they can!

 
 

The Tao of Motherhood

I keep this small book by my bedside and read a small excerpt from it a few times each week.  Every short chapter brings parenthood back to the essentials, back to simple guiding values on the days when I might worry I'm doing something wrong or when I become overwhelmed by it all.  It taps into deeper truths that I might tend to forget and it has helped me to trust myself and the unique relationship with my child.

Diaper bag: Moop waxed canvas bag

A diaper bag is one of those musts and for something you carry around all day, every day, you want something of beauty and high-quality.  For a bonus, support a small business selling handmade bags - Moop is a Pittsburgh business selling waxed canvas bags.  I received The Porter as a gift from my registry.

Song: Lullaby by The Dixie Chicks

You think the Dixie Chicks are so '90s?  Check out their beautiful Lullaby and think again.  I am in love with this sweet song and I sing it to Leo weekly.  It's our song. Try singing it to your child without crying.  Try.

How long do you want to be loved?
Is forever enough? Is forever enough?

How long do you want to be loved?
Is forever enough ‘cause I’m never ever giving you up.
— Lullaby, The Dixie Chicks

Blankets: Embroidered knit cotton blanket

We were gifted this blanket by a friend when Leo was born.  As someone whose love language is gifts, this one touched me.  Embroidered with "lionheart," it's simple, beautiful, and meaningful, and the perfect blanket to wrap my little guy in.  I secretly hope it will become his attachment object.

Handwoven cotton swaddle blanket

It seems every mommy blog insisted that the swaddle blanket from Aden and Anais was a must.  I bought a pack for myself, but then I came across a group of weavers in Uganda and had them make me my own swaddle blanket.  It's the same lightweight cotton and the design is stunning.  It's handwoven from Ugandan cotton and can be used to swaddle your baby, as a burp cloth, a sun cover, or to put under their bum during an on-the-go change.

 
 

Bottles: Pura stainless steel bottles

These Pura bottles are the only bottles we have used.  They are stainless steel and BPA free, but the best part is they grow with your child.  Switch out the nipple with a sippy top when they become old enough and then switch it out again with a straw.  Or even put a top on it and use it for snacks.  Versatile, safe, and eco-friendly.  This product checks so many boxes on what is important to me and Leo seems to like them, too.

Bassinet: Mugavu wood base with Moses basket and sheepskin

I found this Moses basket in a craft market in Uganda, which is hand-woven from palm leaves.  Later, I came across this design for a bassinet and we had a local carpenter make it from Uganda's mugavu wood.  It's been the perfect place to put Leo down for a nap so I can keep an eye on him while I do work at home.  I love how it adds to our home decor rather than contrast with our aesthetic.  I completed the set with a sheepskin, which we use all the time.  I can take it out of the bassinet and place on the floor wherever I am, providing Leo a comfy, soft place to practice tummy time and providing my home with another piece of beauty.

Selçuk and Pamukkale, Turkey

After our stay in Istanbul, we made our way through a few more Turkish towns, the next of which were Selçuk and Pamukkale.

Selçuk was a charming town with much to offer.  Everyone we met was incredibly kind and hospitable and there was plenty to explore, not least of which was one of the Seven Wonders of the Ancient World - the ruins of the ancient city of Ephesus.  It was fascinating to walk through this city and imagine the Biblical stories I knew as a child happening within the streets, temples, and the great theater.

Selçuk also claims to be the origin of the Virgin Mary, and you can visit her supposed home, which is 7 km outside the town.  We planned to ride bicycles, thinking 7 km wasn't so far, but we didn't realize those 7 km were almost entirely uphill.  We stopped at a statue of the Virgin Mary a couple kilometers up the hill and called it good enough!  The ride was still a highlight of our stay, as we came across several flocks of sheep and even a ewe who just gave birth to triplets!  We also stopped by the cave of the Seven Sleepers.

Our next stop was Pamukkale, which was one of the places I was most excited to visit since I had seen incredible pictures.  Unfortunately, it wasn't as grand as we expected because its famous white travertines are drying up and had little water during that particular time of year.  Still, we enjoyed taking some artistic shots in the reflections of the pools that remained and we were also able to explore the ancient city of Hierapolis.

September finds

A few of my favorite finds in the month of September:


Top favorite: Brandon Stanten has done it again.  If the Syrian refugee crisis has been on your mind (and even if it hasn't) you absolutely must spend time reading the stories Brandon has collected.  Normally featuring people on the street of New York City, Humans of New York has traveled to Europe and used the power of story to connect us with those facing some of the hardest parts of the human experience.

Source: Humans of New York

Favorite video: One of my all-time favorite books, The Prophet, is now a movie and it looks like it will be beautiful.  Can't wait to watch it.  Here's the trailer.

Favorite article: Does our society place more value on production than on care-giving?  How can we shift out of our toxic work world?

Favorite recipe: Start your day off right with a big pan of shakshuka for breakfast.

Favorite new song: Need a lovely song playing in the background as you work/read/meditate/converse?  Here's one.

Favorite quote: Sometimes I think we are losing the art of conversation.  Thomas Merton left us with a nibble of wisdom to help with that.

If you want to identify me, ask me not where I live, or what I like to eat, or how I comb my hair, but ask me what I am living for, in detail, and ask me what I think is keeping me from living fully for the thing I want to live for.
— Thomas Merton

Favorite comedic relief: Have a giggle at the expense of the Pope.  Something tells me Pope Francis would laugh right along with you.

Favorite new word: Transmogrify - to transform, especially in a surprising or magical manner.  Spotted in the book The River Why

Favorite product: This adorable bunny, crocheted by women in Uganda and made from Ugandan cotton.  His name is Max. I'm trying to convince Leo to love him as much as I do.

Istanbul, Turkey

In 2011, Eric and I took Turkish airlines to the states for a Christmas trip, so we connived a long, 10-day layover in Turkey on the way back home to Uganda.  Turkey is an incredible country with so much more to explore than 10 days could afford.  It is a fabulous mix of great history and contemporary lifestyle, of Europe and the Middle East.  It literally crosses 2 continents and embraces a variety of lifestyles and thoughts.  Turkey has a culture and a language all its own and you'll immediately sense and respect the Turkish people's pride in their nation.

Istanbul was naturally our first stop and although we were there for a few days, we could easily have stayed several more.  We spent most of our time on the big attractions, which gave us plenty to appreciate!  We visited the grand Aya Sophia and Blue Mosque, Topkapi Palace, and explored the Spice Bazaar.  We crossed the Bosphorus Straight and roamed the streets of Beyoglu. I loved all of it, but my absolute favorite experience of Istanbul was visiting a hamam - a Turkish bath.

Enjoy a few of my photos from Istanbul and consider putting it toward the top of your travel list!

My time: the rituals and margins

Time flies.  When I was 2 weeks overdue with Leo, I sat around twiddling my thumbs all day and badly wanted him to arrive just so I would have something to do.  Now, that's hilarious.  Since he came into our lives, I have a whole new relationship with time, one that is now defined by my personal rituals and the margins of time I have here and there.  Rituals stop the doing and let me simply be in time and the other requires the maximum use of time.  Both are important in their own ways.

Those first few days and weeks of Leo's life completely blurred together and I wouldn't have been able to tell one from another if it weren't for a couple of rituals I've implemented into my life.  Rituals provide us a way to mark time and allow for a special observance of events.  In a way, they give us our time back by simply honoring it. 

Each day, I take one photo and I write just a bit about my day.  Then, before going to bed, I write 3 things I'm grateful for and one thing I love about myself.  These are my rituals.  They have given me a chance to stop and observe what has happened, to appreciate what has passed, and to internalize it all before moving forward with the time that flies.  They put little markers in the timeline of my forward-moving life and give me something to look back upon in appreciation.

And now that I've made an attempt to get back into my previous life, with all its responsibilities and demands, I find myself using the margins of my time more than ever.  I've become an expert at creatively using the tiny slots of time within my day to accomplish something.  Thank God for smart phones.  Suddenly a traffic jam is an opportunity to send an email and waiting for something on the stove to boil is a chance to clean up around the house.

In the midst of it all, I've tried to land on a daily practice for solitude and silence.  Some days, that seems out of the question and other days I snag those moments when Leo is napping or late at night.  I try to remind myself that balance does not mean doing it all and I hold onto the small rituals that give it all meaning.