I have been privileged to compare these two ways, helping me see what is universal and what is simply cultural and I've identified goodness and the weaknesses in both cultures' approaches to parenting. While I believe there is something beautiful in trusting the time-honored ways of mothering, I'm also grateful for scientific research to quell the many myths floating about. And while I love the scientific evidence, I try to stick with books and other resources that don't instill fear or undermine mothers' wisdom, but instead encourage me to trust my instincts and love for my child.
Through it all, each mother and father must choose their own ways to discern what is best for their child and their family. Over the last several months, somewhat subconsciously at first, I developed a few questions to help guide me in the many decisions parents must make on a daily basis. In the end, people from both Uganda and America have questioned my ways. I glean from both cultures, but tend not to fit well into either one. But then, all a mother can do is march on doing her best, with confidence, boldness, and most of all, love.